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Burn The Narrative


Somewhere underground, in a cave filled with rats, three witches are convening. The witchesRachel Moran, Meghan Murphy, and Lena Dunhamare frantic, distressed. They sense trouble. They’re panicking.

Murphy stirs the bubbling witches’ cauldron dutifully. Moran attempts to remain poised and she recites a dark incantation. Dunham merely observes, eager to absorb the methods of her seasoned sisters.

Murphy nods towards Moran, who unfurls an entire Sunday New York Times and angrily thrusts the paper into the cauldron.

“I have called this conclave because a serious problem is developing,” Murphy snarls. “Something has happened.” She glowers. “The narrative is…shifting.” 

Do you remember what early sex work internet looked like? It was dominated by a particular narrative: white, cis, high-end escorts with client-facing blogs. Women that handily wrote about their various sexual exploits, the mountains of cash they earned, and their subversive sex-pos ethos.

They hammered in how empowered they were, how much fun sex work is.

Mainstream reporting on sex work has frequently been disappointing. The narrative the media clung to answered the question: how did those silly whores affect other people? It looked like salacious stories of our rendezvouses with politicians and powerful elites. It took two (!) reporters and “months of investigating” to break that sex workers use Twitter. It took the form of Nick Kristof live tweeting a brothel raid on foreign soil.

The media tangentially acknowledged that prostitutes exist, but rarely ever listened to them. They hammered in how exploitative, how dangerous “the life” is.

So much writing on sex work has relied upon false binaries. Empowered or exploited! Man haters or cock addicts! The mayor’s mistress or a starving street worker! Filled with regret and shame or liberated and carefree!  Captain America or Iron Man! Coke or Pepsi!

Is it a stretch to say that a cover story (two, actually!) might be indicative of a paradigm shift  in mainstream conversation about prostitution?  Should prostitution be a crime? is a silly debate that’s probably as old as the oldest profession itself.  But still, yesterday’s story in the New York Times Magazine is a small gain but a big dealan actual cover story, in an actual newspaper, written by a reporter with name recognition, that centers the voice of current and former sex workers.

I’m not saying I think Emily Bazelon’s reporting was perfect. I’m not even saying I’m impressed by it (I could list a few T&S alums that could have cranked that story out in a day). I’m saying that reporting that emphasizes our voice has been a long time coming. I’m saying that reporting like Bazelon’s is a sign that the movement is developing mainstream legitimacy. I’m saying that the hard work of simply existing as a sex worker in a public space might be starting to pay off.

We have to keep forcing reporters—and ourselves—to reject all of the narratives. Every time we do, the Meghan Murphys and Rachel Morans, the misguided feminists, the policy makers, law enforcement and the paternalistic saviors, will have less rhetorical nonsense to leverage against us. 

Josephine is a co-editor of Tits and Sass. She has been stripping and writing in Detroit for over ten years. She is the author of the now defunct blog The Stripper Hates You. She tweets here. Email her: thestripperhatesyou at gmail dot com.


  1. Yes. Yes. Yes. It’s a hard thing, I imagine, to report on a culture and its people like us sex workers, looking in from the outside. Few do it well enough, and yet there’s almost an entire cottage industry, if you will, of academia built around sex work and sex workers (fuck most of them, by the way). I’m glad Emily wrote the piece, although she didn’t know enough to stay away from a few fake activist divas featured in the article (not her fault, how was she to know?). (How about writing a piece on those people, Josephine? The ones with the shakey background stories, the grant-writing hustlers that academia cream their jeans over, the appropriators who have no business and yet no problem exploiting the very people they supposedly represent for no reason other than self-promotion? Oh, the stories we could tell!)

  2. Meghan Murphy is the bomb. Don’ t fn mess with her. She is the epitome of awesome. This post is a steaming pile of…

  3. Do three cover stories of mainstream mags signals a paradigm shift in the conversation about prostitution? (I’m including The Economist’s August 9, 2014 outright call for decriminalization, altho they’re Brits, so they call for decriminalisation…) Dunno, but I am glad to see it, though. What I especially liked were the images in the NYT Mag piece– folks who look like People I Know. Nice to see you, too, Priscilla A.– you’re an idol of mine!!


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