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World Leaders: An East Asian Sex Worker Round Table

Mariko Passion, from "Colonizer Fantasy" series (Photo by Alex Safron, copyright Mariko Passion 2010)
Mariko Passion, from the “Colonizer Fantasy” series (Photo by Alex Safron, copyright Mariko Passion 2010)

Participants: Ho Lee Fuk 1, Nada 2, Christian Vega3, and Kate Zen; moderated by Mariko Passion

We at Tits and Sass wanted to run a series on racial fetishization in sex work. We were interested in questions like “What is it like for sex workers of color to labor in an industry where customers’ racist attitudes are often allowed to run rampant and may even be encouraged by management or workers themselves as a way to generate more income?” “How does your race shape the way you create and market your work persona?” “Are there advantages as well as disadvantages to being of color and working in the sex industry?” Mariko took this idea, found participants, and ran with it, creating an East Asian sex worker round table. We’d also love to hear from non-Asian sex workers of color on their fetishization in the sex trade and how they cope with it, capitalize on it, and rise above it.

Note from Mariko: This is just one roundtable. No social justice lens was used to select the voices heard here, and to be transparent, all the participants have a four year degree and all except one are part of pretty exclusive circles of global activism and First World/class privileged cisgendered folks. This post is not meant to be THE voice of East Asian sex workers, just an interesting, well voiced snapshot.

What are some racialized marketing techniques you have experimented with in your sex work?

Ho Lee Fuk: My ad did say Asian, and I had a full face pic, but it was both to advertise my race and to warn off clients who weren’t seeking [an] Asian [provider]. Of the great and minor disappointments in life, there’s nothing like getting dim sum when you really want lasagna.

Nada: I just try to be myself, I don’t put ASIAN ASIAN ASIAN everywhere.

Kate Zen: Oh, I market it consciously. Especially here in Quebec, where there are fewer Asians around.

Ho Lee Fuk: There are like four male sex workers in the whole East Bay (location, location, location!), and I was the only Asian. Which meant I didn’t have to compete with these muscle girls with nine inch cocks working in SF. I was kind of the prettiest dish on the knick-knacks table at the church bazaar.

What is one scene involving Asian race play that you refuse to do? What is your criteria for rejection?

Kate Zen: I’m kind of ashamed to say that I don’t have a strong criteria for rejection. If you pay me enough money, most dominant roles are fair game, since it’s all clearly pretend to me anyways. I feel that my client’s personal ignorance is his own problem. I don’t usually make it my job to educate him. However, I don’t often switch or play submissive roles, which is more often the Asian stereotype—so sometimes, just by insisting on a dominant role in every scene, I feel that I am rejecting many Asian stereotypes. In fact, it’s a relief that I can say: “Hey Mom! I’m not exactly a doctor like you wanted, but sometimes, I still get to wear a stethoscope!”

Nada: I refused to be a yoga teacher. I think it is the worst kind of appropriation in the West. But don’t worry—I only apply this criteria to my own actions. I understand everyone will do what they need to in their own lives.

Piñatas & Profits

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Hi Tits and Sass,
I realize this is not a picture of a pet and money…but it is a picture of a paper mache dick I made, making off with cash from a nude modeling gig. Not sure if it fits your bill but wanted to share it 🙂
Thanks for your amazing work in sharing sex worker voices and news!
-Cindy

The category is “FurBALLS and Funds,” so we’ll allow it this once! We would also like to know when you open your Etsy store with penis piñatas and suggest the name Peeñata.

Sex workers, submit pictures of your furballs and funds here.

The Week In Links—December 6

Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of depressing sex worker news this week? Take a second and try to enjoy this .gif.
Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of depressing sex worker news this week? Take a second and try to enjoy this .gif.

On Dec. 4 brothels, strip clubs and sex shops in Soho, London were raided by over 200 police officers. The officers arrived in  riot vans and were reinforced by a police helicopter. Think about that for a second: 200 police officers were deployed. That’s a literal army.  The English Collective of Prostitutes’ response to this event can be read here.

Botswana is ramping up its effort to target sex workers. Over 30 sex workers were arrested there over the weekend.

Police raided a brothel in the United Kingdom. The door was answered by someone who sort of looked like what a sex worker might look like when she’s working and then it becomes a headline because journalists are lazy.

The amazing members of the Association of Women Prostitutes of Argentina held a demonstration in front of the Congress building in Buenos Aires. The demonstrators “called for the government to recognize the violence sex workers suffer as a result of a non-existent legal structure for sex work.”

Actress Rashida Jones wrote an op-ed for Glamour about the “pornification” of culture. Highlights include “Men: WHERE ARE YOU??? Please talk to us about how all this makes you feel.” Yes, so true, where can we possibly hear a man’s opinion on women’s bodies and behavior?

Girl, Undressed (2008)

afouler3 by Caty and Red

12/9/2013 update: Yesterday, several commenters pointed out that speculating on the author’s trauma history was inappropriate of us. Upon reflection, we agree that this was specious and unnecessary, and apologize deeply for doing so.

Red: I love stripper memoirs; I buy them all indiscriminately and hope for the best. Strippers are like my family, people I love and hate and get driven crazy by but keep returning to. So you know I read Girl, Undressed when I found a copy at Powell’s. And I hated it. When Caty asked if I wanted to co-review it, I got giddy at the idea of sharing my outrage. Is there anything more fun that being righteously furious with a friend?

For those of you who haven’t read it, Girl, Undressed follows Fowler on a dank and seamy voyage, to places only “the ruined” (her term) can sink. She stumbles around early 2000s Manhattan, a weary traveler promising a glimpse at a New York not “vacuum-packed and delivered to your tastefully decorated abodes via HBO… there’ll be a sad lack of shopping expeditions to Bergdorf’s to punctuate each chapter’s end.” In other words, Fowler is not Carrie Bradshaw (but then who is) and I’m also gathering that she’s not writing this for me or her sisters-in-degradation/fellow strippers.

Stacks & Cats

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This is Pat, with my two-day haul from a very good tour. I’m Eva, a private escort in Melbourne, Australia.

Sex workers, submit pictures of your furballs and funds here.