Dear Tits and Sass: Dating Edition

Those two biblical lovebirds, Ruth and Boaz. (image via the New York Public Library Digital Collection)

Dear Tits and Sass, I’m 28 and I’ve been a stripper for almost seven years. The last couple have definitely been the hardest, but the most profitable. I’ve created a life better than I could have imagined for myself before I started dancing—riding horses at nationally rated jumping shows, buying a house, driving a nice… Continue reading Dear Tits and Sass: Dating Edition

The Peculiar Political Economics of Pro-Domming

“So, I figured out what happened to Jane,” the dungeon manager said. “Oh?” “My friend ran into her the other day. She’s a cop now.” “I guess that makes some kind of sense ,” I said. “Mmhhmm. She can beat-up people legally now.” That’s the punchline. Do you get it? Let me take all the… Continue reading The Peculiar Political Economics of Pro-Domming

Sex Trafficking: A Media Guide

This isn't sex trafficking. (An image used in a campaign for anti-trafficking organization Voices for Dignity, by Flickr user dualflipflop)

Sex trafficking is when evil men steal little girls from the mall and keep them chained to beds where they are forced to service 100 men a day. Sex trafficking is when you ask your husband to sit in the next room while you see a new client, just in case. Sex trafficking is when… Continue reading Sex Trafficking: A Media Guide

The Tedium of Trans Sex Work

As a trans woman doing full-service sex work, I’ve found that my work provides sharp and unrelenting insight into how men sexualize and fetishize trans women. This phenomenon isn’t unique to trans women in sex work, of course. But these attitudes define my experience of the industry in profoundly different ways to those of non-trans… Continue reading The Tedium of Trans Sex Work

Flesh And Bone (2015)

Our heroine, Claire, attempts stripping.

Flesh and Bone is on Starz, and predictably over the top, and you know it will be from the moment the credits start. A tiny ballerina dances amidst red dust that’s maybe blood, maybe drugs, who even knows, accompanied by a cover of that Animotion song “Obsession.” Flesh and Bone is a dance story, and… Continue reading Flesh And Bone (2015)