Jealousy Is Not An Excuse: Monogamous Norms and Partner Violence Against Sex Workers

(Image by antonia!, via Flickr and the Creative Commons)

I am non-monogamous by choice, not just by de facto circumstance because of the fact that I am an escort. I live with one of my serious partners, and have a few other partners and sexy friends. I’ve never been suited to monogamy, and sex work has always played a role in that for me.… Continue reading Jealousy Is Not An Excuse: Monogamous Norms and Partner Violence Against Sex Workers

The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out

Locker room camaraderie can stretch way beyond helping someone with their costume (Photo by Jimi Photog, via Wikipedia)

I actually didn’t know who Christy Mack was until I started seeing articles about her attack flying around the internet last week. But her story is one that is familiar to me. Intimately familiar. I stripped for eight years, in a dozen clubs across New York, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Michigan, Iowa, Minnesota, Colorado, and Georgia. I met… Continue reading The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out

Don’t Hit Women Or Whores: Whorephobic Domestic Violence and Its Discontents

Christy Mack at the Toronto Vanity Fan Expo earlier this year (Photo by Alan Teo, via flickr and the Creative Commons)

“Don’t hit women or whores” reads an oh-so-helpful comment under one of the many reports of the brutal assault and attempted rape of porn actress and dancer Christy Mack by her ex partner, War Machine (formerly known as John Koppenhaver), this past week. And that’s one of the nice ones. Most of the not-nice ones… Continue reading Don’t Hit Women Or Whores: Whorephobic Domestic Violence and Its Discontents

The Week in Links—August 8th

  Laverne Cox supports Monica Jones’ appeal against trumped up charges of “manifesting prostitution”! We couldn’t have dreamed up a more exciting celebrity cameo in our wildest activist dreams. Catch up on Monica’s case by looking through Tits and Sass’ Monica Jones tag, and stay tuned for an exclusive Tits and Sass update on her appeal by… Continue reading The Week in Links—August 8th