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Not Good Enough To Be Objectified?

I will be the first to admit that my experience in the industry has been super privileged. I was lucky to find a gig that works for me and hasn’t created in me a serious hatred towards the world in general for being kind of terrible and fucked up around race and sexuality. Having said that, I do recognize ugliness when I see it, and this industry is, in some ways, extremely racist, as are some of the people who participate in it. I often struggle to put that into words, because sometimes it’s as simple as someone thinking my body, because it is not white, is not worth as much as a woman whose body is white, and sometimes it’s as complicated as a client going all the way around the race issue (in his mind) but saying things that are clearly race specific and kind of awkward and weird (like “I love the things you people do with your hair.” because he didn’t want to say “Black Women” even though “you people” is so much worse and actually made me recoil in disgust and say, without thinking, “If you’re going to fetishize me you should figure out a way to do it that doesn’t make you sound like a troglodyte, ugh.”)

This article, from Unequal Desires by Siobhan Brooks (who was part of unionizing the Lusty Lady, a fact I only know because I watched “Live Nude Girls Unite” during a face-sitting session once. I love my job.)  does that for me! I wish there were more pieces on racism in the industry as a whole, or in my field specifically like this one about stripping and race, but I have a feeling a lot of things are applicable in all of our cases. Even though, obviously, it sucks that there even need to be articles written in , or are people whose voices aren’t being heard, or people whose experiences are being ignored based solely on the color of their skin, right?

If you have any resources, do share in the comments!

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  1. The fact that I can say my experience, which hasn’t been peachy keen, is privileged makes me recoil anytime I think it…so we’re both recoiling.


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