sex workers’ relationships

Your Mother Is A Whore!

Lola Luscious and child. (Photo courtesy of Lola Luscious)

Puttering around the Mojave as a child, I shouted “Tu madres es una puta!” to the delight of my father and other day laborers. Before I could even count in Spanish, I knew how to say, “Your mother is a whore!” The colloquialism revealed two truths about living under a heteropatriarchy: first, a woman’s worth… Continue reading Your Mother Is A Whore!

How You Can Tell That Your New, Perfect, Accepting Partner Isn’t All That Accepting (Or Perfect)

That worshipful look we hope they're directing towards you.

You’ve met that new person, and boy, are they different! They aren’t an unemployed boyfriend living off of your lap-dance money or a girlfriend making snide remarks about you supporting the patriarchy. They’re different from the partners assuming you’re always down to fuck or the ones constantly asking how much you make. No. This new… Continue reading How You Can Tell That Your New, Perfect, Accepting Partner Isn’t All That Accepting (Or Perfect)

Dear Tits and Sass: Boundaries

Dear Tits and Sass, I’ve been a worker for around ten years now and have been full time for around the latter half of that. Navigating having a partner while being a worker is nothing new to me. However, I’ve been with my current partner for around a year and over the last few months I’ve… Continue reading Dear Tits and Sass: Boundaries

Support Hos: Deadpool

Vanessa and Wade's meetcute.

When I first saw Deadpool on Valentine’s Day with my civilian partner, I remember leaving the theater on cloud nine, sure that my relationship could withstand anything. The movie made me feel like my job was not an obstacle to be overcome by romantic interests but a core part of me that could be embraced.… Continue reading Support Hos: Deadpool

Dear Tits and Sass: The Client Boyfriend

(image via Flickr user frankieleon)

My BF is a former client. When I first met him I was in my early 30s and really popular. I saw him once or twice… I missed a couple appointments and he stopped seeing me. Over the years my business slowed down. I operated UTR, mostly relying on regulars…After almost eight years my client… Continue reading Dear Tits and Sass: The Client Boyfriend