The numbers are staggering. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one out of every four women has or will experience domestic violence. If those numbers are correct, it is guaranteed that you know someone that has been or is a victim. Domestic violence isn’t always physical; it can be verbal, emotional, or even… Continue reading Where To Get Help
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Jealousy Is Not An Excuse: Monogamous Norms and Partner Violence Against Sex Workers
I am non-monogamous by choice, not just by de facto circumstance because of the fact that I am an escort. I live with one of my serious partners, and have a few other partners and sexy friends. I’ve never been suited to monogamy, and sex work has always played a role in that for me.… Continue reading Jealousy Is Not An Excuse: Monogamous Norms and Partner Violence Against Sex Workers
The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out
I actually didn’t know who Christy Mack was until I started seeing articles about her attack flying around the internet last week. But her story is one that is familiar to me. Intimately familiar. I stripped for eight years, in a dozen clubs across New York, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Michigan, Iowa, Minnesota, Colorado, and Georgia. I met… Continue reading The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out
Sex Work and Partner Violence: How We’re Forced To Negotiate Our Own Abuse
Editor’s note: This post was originally erroneously attributed to Victoria Joy. The piece is actually by Ruby Rue. Victims of violence are more likely to have experienced violence at the hands of someone they know. The same goes for sex workers. There seems to be a lot more concern about stranger-danger in the industry than… Continue reading Sex Work and Partner Violence: How We’re Forced To Negotiate Our Own Abuse
Don’t Hit Women Or Whores: Whorephobic Domestic Violence and Its Discontents
“Don’t hit women or whores” reads an oh-so-helpful comment under one of the many reports of the brutal assault and attempted rape of porn actress and dancer Christy Mack by her ex partner, War Machine (formerly known as John Koppenhaver), this past week. And that’s one of the nice ones. Most of the not-nice ones… Continue reading Don’t Hit Women Or Whores: Whorephobic Domestic Violence and Its Discontents