Where To Get Help

Reach out to someone. (Photo by Mark Fischer [Flickr user fischerfotos])

The numbers are staggering. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one out of every four women has or will experience domestic violence. If those numbers are correct, it is guaranteed that you know someone that has been or is a victim. Domestic violence isn’t always physical; it can be verbal, emotional, or even… Continue reading Where To Get Help

The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out

Locker room camaraderie can stretch way beyond helping someone with their costume (Photo by Jimi Photog, via Wikipedia)

I actually didn’t know who Christy Mack was until I started seeing articles about her attack flying around the internet last week. But her story is one that is familiar to me. Intimately familiar. I stripped for eight years, in a dozen clubs across New York, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Michigan, Iowa, Minnesota, Colorado, and Georgia. I met… Continue reading The Second Shittiest Thing About Being Abused: Survivor Solidarity And Getting Out

Sex Work and Partner Violence: How We’re Forced To Negotiate Our Own Abuse

Late porn performer Linda Susan Boreman/ Linda Lovelace, abused for years by her manager boyfriend Chuck Traynor (Image by Nino Eugene La Pia, via flickr and the Creative Commons)

Editor’s note: This post was originally erroneously attributed to Victoria Joy. The piece is actually by Ruby Rue. Victims of violence are more likely to have experienced violence at the hands of someone they know. The same goes for sex workers. There seems to be a lot more concern about stranger-danger in the industry than… Continue reading Sex Work and Partner Violence: How We’re Forced To Negotiate Our Own Abuse

Tap Dancing For The Man: Leaving Academia For Sex Work

via flickr user Iain Farrell

Leaving academia isn’t just for sex workers, but there are a good number of former academics among our contributors and readers. Once you’ve done sex work and experienced the particular freedoms it affords, academia’s constraints can seem more chafing and its endgame more pointless. This post in particular prompted us to have some of them… Continue reading Tap Dancing For The Man: Leaving Academia For Sex Work