I told them truth be known, I had actually traumatized my parents! The poor mom and dad did not know what to do after finding their daughter in her walk in closet doing self bondage at a very tender age (yes, comic books rot your brain and cause fetishes for catsuits and VERY HIGH HEELS among other things!). They didn’t address the situation in the least, but they shamed me and wouldn’t speak to me for what seemed like eternity.

I should have also told them that I also traumatized the first partner I had when I did get sexually active (with a partner that is), as my partner was so overwhelmed (he was shocked that I was enjoying his hands so damn much, as he had yet to insert what he obviously considered the more important appendage) that he attempted to shame ME for being as sexual and uninhibited as I was!!

Now I must state that I do believe that this form of SHAMING is indeed abusive and causes a LOT of unnecessary issues for MANY people that will span over lifetimes and generations and is the root of many a relationship sexual issue! In my opinion it’s a very close relative of the shame sex workers deal with for being sex workers, an incestuous relative!

Nope- the sexual abuse I have suffered has been at the hands of a hypocritical culture that shames people for being sexual!!

The same culture that allows for the sexualization of childhood and children through media, a culture that tolerates the use of sex in just about every form of advertising, and a society that runs and hides from itself when very real topics need to be addressed (and without the bullshit and the dogma PLEASE)!

I happen to LIKE myself, in fact- I LOVE myself and it is this love of myself that refuses to allow shame to be a part of my mental and emotional construct anymore!

I have spent plenty of time healing the ‘shame program’ that was introduced by well meaning yet extremely misguided parents who bought the ‘shame program’ that was passed on via THEIR parents and this culture.

I broke that cycle in my life.
I assure you, I am absolutely SHAME-LESS!!!!

Frankly, regardless of who the jokes are aimed at, they are despicable. Abuse. Is. Never. Funny. Period.
It says a TON about the person making the joke. It shows the nasty, fetid lump where their heart should be.

I think fondly of Joss Whedon’s TV series “Firefly” that aired on the Fox Network, where prostitution was legal, and the art of the courtesan was exemplified with his portrayal of “Companions” and their well-educated, sophisticated dedication to just that–Companionship! Escorts, at their finest. And very well paid! Its undoubtedly the reason for the series’ terrible time-slot when first aired, and its almost immediate cancellation–Fox is so touchy about their core Christian values being challenged.

What two consenting adults choose to do together should not be demonized or forbidden or slandered. If we can charge for food, water, shelter, medicine (including sexual performance drugs), entertainment (including pornography), education, travel, religion–heck, even air–why not sex? How is it I can pay a woman to have a baby for me, but I can’t pay her for the necessary ACT that LEADS to conception of said baby…?

Further, marrying for anything other than love, is a form of prostitution. It is exchanging sex for housing, MONEY, privileges, prestige; often with mistresses and love affairs on the side. But I guess its fine as long as the upper class are “calling” it something else…and surely, their childhood traumas are not brought into question when they land themselves a million-dollar sugar daddy, or a twenty-something trophy wife. They openly flaunt it. Hypocrisy at its finest.