Comments on: “You’re So Brave!”: Pro Sub Stigma And Its Discontents

By: Gemma

Gemma — Sun, 07 Feb 2016 17:52:11 +0000

Here’s a link to a workshop I did on pro-subbing in London late 2015. http://safety-in-pro-submission.tumblr.com/

By: james dunn

james dunn — Tue, 26 Jan 2016 03:15:28 +0000

I left a comment above I have no website

By: james dunn

james dunn — Tue, 26 Jan 2016 03:09:44 +0000

Please know I’ve always felt submissive/slave role my calling. In recent years l have come a long way in my journey but have so much more to learn. I’ve want to do this professionally but never dreamed it was possible
So I must ask is there a place for male pro-subs. If so your advice and guidance would be greatfully welcome

By: Audrey More

Audrey More — Sat, 07 Nov 2015 19:41:42 +0000

In reply to MarianaSab. Thanks for reading Mariana, and absolutely, there's just so much emotional labour involved in running a scene as a sub, maintaining a role and also navigating your boundaries and trying to keep yourself safe. And yeah, I completely agree that there's a total dearth of learning resources for subs. I feel like it's a further insinuation that the work is less skilled that topping.

By: Miss Margo

Miss Margo — Sat, 07 Nov 2015 00:51:44 +0000

What a mansplaining windbag.

By: MarianaSab

MarianaSab — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 05:40:06 +0000

What’s with the quotation marks? Pro-sub is a real thing.
It never ceases to amaze me how the meanest reactions to prosubbing come from within the kink community itself. I’ve heard lyfestylers say pros are giving away, wasting and corrupting the gift of their submission. That they don’t value themselves, that they just never found the right dom. Or that they’ll do anything for the money, as if extra-money would somehow blur their limits into oblivion.

By: MarianaSab

MarianaSab — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 05:39:35 +0000

By: LoriAdorable

LoriAdorable — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 02:33:54 +0000

In reply to MarianaSab. This post brought up so many memories, issues, fears, thoughts. Thank you for writing it. And Mariana, your comment is the perfect distillation of all the labor that pro-subbing entails! There definitely need to be more BDSM classes for bottoms.

By: LoriAdorable

LoriAdorable — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 02:31:59 +0000

Literally none of this was true or necessary.

By: Cat

Cat — Thu, 05 Nov 2015 02:01:52 +0000

“Back in my day, there was NEVER any abuse in the bdsm community!” I’m gonna go ahead and call bullshit on that and also request that you shut the fuck up.