Comments on: Things I’ve Learned During My First Year Pro-Subbing

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Mon, 29 Oct 2018 12:50:53 +0000

[…] playing out their own kinks and fetishes in a D/s relationship. While less common than pro-dommes, pro-subbing also exists for those seeking to play the dom role in a more professional […]

By: Stella

Stella — Mon, 29 Feb 2016 00:58:01 +0000

I loooove this! Thank you for sharing. I feel like a whole new world just opened up. But also, I just love the way you write. 🙂

By: gemma

gemma — Sun, 07 Feb 2016 17:51:40 +0000

Thanks for this – I’ve been a pro-sub for 4 years or so. Regarding your first point, couldn’t agree more. Here’s a link to a workshop I did on pro-subbing in London late 2015. http://safety-in-pro-submission.tumblr.com/

By: Miss Margo

Miss Margo — Fri, 05 Feb 2016 21:37:47 +0000

Sorry for typos, I’m writing this on my phone. First, I enjoyed this essay and appreciate your contribution. I pro-subbed (and dommed) in nyc for a few years. I was great at it, but I had to quit it because it was too close to my personal sexuaul identity (I switch, but it’s approx 80%/20% in favor of being a submissive masochist). It started to mess with my head. One of the biggest problems for me was that, as you note, the guys are boundaries pushers who expect sex, which is FINE in and of itself, but very frustrating when I put in my ads and emails that I didn’t offer full service, and I reiterated it. Also, most expect full nudity, which dramatically increases the odds of being molested. I’m also angered at the men who think the fees for a pro-sub are “too pricy,” as you wrote. Dude, you are looking at a woman who will enthusiastically cater to your sadistic fantasy and endure (even enjoy!) Taking pain from you. I allowed some clients to beat me black and blue. You can’t put a price on a service like that. It’s a beautiful and generous thing on behalf of the woman and you should be grateful she even exists. Oh another think: male Dom clients often wanted/insisted that I have an orgasm. I faked it every time, but god, did I resent the request. I’m not your girlfriend, I met you 30 minutes ago, you aren’t entitled to that level of intimacy! Submissive clients can be jerks, but they don’t (usually) have the audacity to expect me to come! Will post again later.

By: Bijou D

Bijou D — Thu, 04 Feb 2016 20:54:15 +0000

Yay!!!! I find domme-ing challenging (I am alright “Mommy Domme” but that’s about it) and I mostly do escort work but I’d LOVE to be a pro-sub. Thank you so much for your insight into this line of SW.