By: Flora

Flora — Fri, 22 Jun 2012 19:43:11 +0000

Yes, the fine line between the real and the work. I struggle too. When I started, I told clients fantastical tales about my journeys around the world. Those men became regulars. And I got guilty. I ended up telling them the truth–lightly, of course–and never, ever, my real name (“I can’t tell you,” I’ve said, “it’ll lose its magic”). But my cultural background, yes, my goals in life… sometimes, yes, my major and my minors, yes, sure. I imagine it’s all traceable. And, to be honest, I kind of want to be caught. My friends know. My boyfriend knows. I told my parents, too. Next, my extended family, my boyfriend’s family, and then: the world? Who knows? Privacy. It’s such a tricky damn business. I know we’re all similarly proud of what we do. I want to be open. I want to shout it out, but you’re right. Boundaries really do matter.

By: Lilly Muse

Lilly Muse — Fri, 22 Jun 2012 15:16:22 +0000

Thank you, Tizzy, and well said. These are issues I’m constantly waltzing around, trying to find an appropriate balance of sharing personal information in order to establish trust with clients with that of my personal safety. Add an internet presence to the whole thing, and I find it’s a lot to keep track of, a lot to compartmentalize. Maintaining the split of my work identity into two camps (the work itself and my writing/networking about the work), not to mention my personal internet life, can be exhausting. The tidal wave of social media can be incredibly helpful to us, but it’s also hugely intimidating in all the ways shit can go wrong, and I’d be willing to bet it’s the #1 privacy issue we’re dealing with now. Seems like a great opportunity for a workshop.

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