I guess we got lucky..our owner is fabulous. She’s great at picking clients. I’m a pro switch, so I sub from time to time. I’ve never had a bad experience with a client, and I’ve been working there over a year. She has no problem blacklisting any clients that other dommes have had problems with, though. And I had this one potential client who wanted to gag me and blindfold me in our first session. The owner said, no way. She said, I would never let a first-time client gag and blindfold any of my girls. That meant a lot to me.

She lets us do whatever we want when we sit in, and she encourages us to all run clips4sale stores and shoot at the dungeon. We only have to reimburse here whatever supplies we may use. She is very concerned with safety and hygiene. We keep the place very clean, and she teaches us about safe flogging, whipping, even medical practices, if people are into that. She never pushes anyone to do any activities they don’t like or feel comfortable with. She’s also very good at helping us brand and market ourselves.

I’d been having trouble getting clients lately, and she had dinner with me and helped me come up with a ton of great ideas to better market myself. She also had me think of the activities I like best, and focus on those, in my profile on her web page.

It really sounds to me like me and Skyler are probably working for the best dungeon in the country. I think ours could be a model of what a commercial dungeon SHOULD be.

I’m an escort in Australia who communicates with a wide community of workers – we are asked for fetish work a lot. I’d say about a third of my genuine booking requests include some light fetish, mostly golden showers, spanking,, restraint or sub/dom role play. And I’m a very vanilla escort.

Hell I’m a stripper and I’ve done lots of ball busting and foot fetish work in the club!

Yours sounds like what mine was trying to be. Seriously, the mission statement of the place I worked was pretty impressive. I have many theories about what made it turn — hell, it could have been as simple as not being able to make rent and starting to lose perspective.

Part of this comes from the fact that when I set out to make the film, I had no idea that there *was* a SW activism community, or even that websites like this existed. I certainly had never heard stories like the ones above. My coworkers had a tendency to sugar coat the past, rebranding horrific experiences as “no big” and smiling as they were telling the stories. (I have a scene in the movie that shows this.)

I think stories like these help people to not blame themselves for having bad experiences. Thank you again for sharing.

PS – My film is showing on Friday, August 15 at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit at 4:45pm for anyone who may be there. US screenings are rare right now, so if you’re around, I’d love to see you and hear responses.

I’ve had to fight my corner at both of the houses I’ve ever worked to not do sessions I felt I could not do safely(e.g. sounds,heavy cutting) or not to see clients I’ve found to be too impaired (either due to drugs or their own manias) to make informed decisions/respect limits.

I’ve also taken some nasty management retaliation for advising a BRAND new Domme about clients who had a variety of unpleasant tendencies (octopus hands, cheating ladies out of their appropriate session rate, among other issues) so they could walk into the room informed, rather than be traumatized, cheated or assaulted by a man who makes a habit of seeing new girls for the specific purpose of exploiting their ignorance.

Given that I have always have had multiple income streams, not all of which are industry related, I have the leeway of picking my battles with management and weathering the resulting spite related income impact……..not everyone has that option, particularly if sex work is their only current vocation