Comments on: The Annual Sausage Fest

By: Miss Margo

Miss Margo — Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:21:28 +0000

It is appalling to me that women would act this way towards the entertainers. Those men earned every dime. I have no idea how they got through that. I wanted to curl up into a ball just from reading the description of how the audience was acting.

For some reason, I’d always just ignorantly assumed that male strippers didn’t usually interact with the audience…that it was always more like a Chippendales-type stage show. Ugh, guess not.

By: Berlin

Berlin — Sat, 16 Mar 2013 00:49:22 +0000

I also went to one of these male-stripper nights at a local club here and was totally appalled, both with the women AND with some of the male strippers behaviour. It seemed super uncomfortable to me that the male strippers were grabbing women’s heads and shoving them into their crotches, BUT it also pissed me off that the women were taking photos without permission, grabbing every male who walked past and generally screaming in a frenzy I’ve never quite experienced before. The whole thing was super fucked up to me. The dancers would make the rounds in the audience and one came up to me and grabbed my hand and put it on his cock. I didn’t ask for that! I was just watching the hot bodies. If I wanted to touch your cock, I would have asked. I get that the guys were probably doing it because the majority of the women there loved it. But the lack of consent on both sides was unbearable.

By: JR

JR — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 21:58:58 +0000

Maybe if they did this more than once a year they wouldn’t act like this. In Mexico they have male strip clubs open every day of the week. The women there act nothing like this. (Women can get lap dances in a private space too–not sure if that happens here in the US.)

By: LoriAdorable

LoriAdorable — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:43:20 +0000

Dear sweet naked Jesus. This is the darkest corner at the intersection of patriarchy-hurts-men-too and sex-workers-are-asking-for-it. You know the logic: ‘women never want sex, and sexual assault is all about wanting sex, and so women can’t commit sexual assault’, combined with ‘all sex workers always want everything we do to them, so they can’t be assaulted or disrespected in any way.’ I like to think that if I’d been there I would’ve set fire to several of these women’s big, dumb heads, but I probably would’ve just started crying because I was so uncomfortable, given one of the guys a 20, and then snuck out the back.

This also reminds me of the last interaction I had with a male sex worker. A few months ago I was pro-domming at a Venetian ball, where there was also a little person dressed up as a jester (it was… an interesting party), and naturally he was the person I felt most comfortable talking to. Turns out he was a male stripper on the side. He told me some of the most horrific stories about women grabbing him every which way, and we definitely bonded over how much clients suck. Reminded me that I should get to know more male sex workers.

By: Crimson

Crimson — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:51:05 +0000

Thank you so much for writing this. I have many male sex workers – both gay and straight – in my life and time and again I find their experiences to be delegitimized. I don’t deny that male privilege – just like class, race, cis, etc etc privileges – has a role to play in the experiences and treatments of workers but their voices definitely have a place in this community and all too often they get written off. It seems as though they get a more fair shake from society with less questions about if their parents hugged them enough or what their “real” plan is and more “dude, BRO. That is like, SO awesome” – but their clients treat them like crap and it’s supposed to be no big deal because you know, they’re dudes.

I hope everyone who thinks that having women treat you like you’re worthless, paw at you and generally strip you of your personhood (usually for far less than women workers are paid) isn’t as “real” as what we experience reads this, because you capture the essence of what that treatment is like so perfectly. Thank you.