Tag: pro-sub

Things I’ve Learned During My First Year Pro-Subbing

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I’ve been pro-subbing for less than a year. I tiptoed into it slowly, unsure of how to advertise or snag clients. When I started providing, I advertised light domme services, but I usually just ended up massaging guys or slapping them around a bit. I soon realized that, in both my professional and personal life,… Continue reading Things I’ve Learned During My First Year Pro-Subbing

“You’re So Brave!”: Pro Sub Stigma And Its Discontents

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Working as a professional submissive often makes you feel like an outsider. Pro-subs and pro-switches are a relatively rare breed of service provider, which makes our work feel pretty esoteric from the get go. For every one of us, there are many more vanilla, in-person, indoor workers. In part, this could be because the need… Continue reading “You’re So Brave!”: Pro Sub Stigma And Its Discontents

The Commercial Dungeon Experience: Abusive Management And Exploitation

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Dungeons are often a launching pad for newbies entering the industry as the work seems safer and often more socially acceptable to the general public. In recent years pro-domme, sub, and switch work has gotten more popular than ever. Meanwhile, commercial dungeon management continues to prey on people entering into the industry looking for an… Continue reading The Commercial Dungeon Experience: Abusive Management And Exploitation

Remedy (2014)

“So you went domme on a dare,” a co-worker remarks to the eponymous protagonist of Remedy. It’s one of the movie’s more memorable lines. It’s also the reason I watched this flick in the first place: a dare. I challenged myself to sit through a movie about a twenty-something who lands a job as a… Continue reading Remedy (2014)

Is The Customer Always Right? On Professionalism and Boundaries, Part 1

Below, four in-person sex working professionals discuss how to maintain boundaries while keeping clients happy, the most common problems that cause conflicts with customers, and what they think professionalism means in the context of a career plagued by stigma and illegality. Part two will be posted tomorrow. The women weighing in are Lori Adorable, Amanda… Continue reading Is The Customer Always Right? On Professionalism and Boundaries, Part 1