Comments on: Someone You Know is a Sex Worker… (It’s me!)

By: Support Our Friends at the St. James Infirmary

Support Our Friends at the St. James Infirmary — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:01:20 +0000

[…] The St. James Infirmary, a San Francisco clinic that specifically treats the sex worker community, is having an online fundraiser this afternoon. If you’re not familiar with the clinic, it’s been around since 1999 and offers sex workers vital health services in an understanding, non-judgmental environment, in addition to fighting for our acceptance in the mainstream. […]

By: andi

andi — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 06:46:58 +0000

omg i know 4 of the people pictured in that ad. one of them since i was 18, and i didn’t know she was a sex worker! rad!

By: Catherine

Catherine — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 23:07:44 +0000

I’m pretty open about being a stripper. As for illegal/grey-area-illegal jobs, I can see why people would want to be more secretive. Anyway, more times than I would have expected, I’ll have someone respond to my “confession” with either a story about how they tried sex work once, or used to do it regularly, or seriously considered it, or had a sister/roommate/girlfriend who did it. I don’t know, maybe I’ve developed a sixth sense for figuring out who’s a safe person to talk to. Or maybe I’m such a bitch that people are hesitant to tell me what they really think about it!

I have hardly any friends these days who are financially comfortable without being a sex worker (or drug dealer), and I feel guilty sometimes when people are like, “Wow, you are such a financially successful freelance writer, how do you make it work out?” And then I feel really bad, because meanwhile maybe they’re trying to establish some challenging career for themselves and I seem to do it soooo effortlessly. So it’s often during one of those conversations that I confess how I actually make money. In that context it always seems to make a lot of sense to the person I’m speaking to; even if they’d never do it themselves, they can see why someone would.

By: Caitlyn

Caitlyn — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 20:56:27 +0000

I too would like to know how you brought it up and shared your secret. Two years into this work, I can count on one hand how many people I’ve told and now I can count how many of them are still my friend on one finger. The reaction has been “I thought you were better than that” and ultimately “I can no longer be your friend.” I find it surprising because I always thought I had extremely liberal, sex-positive friends.

By: Charlotte Shane

Charlotte Shane — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 04:00:01 +0000

I had a guy do the “me too” thing once and it was so awesome. We were out with a group of friends at a bar and he sort-of pulled me over and started telling about how he used to work. I was really touched and it made me feel so close to/protective of him though we didn’t know each other very well before then. I got the impression it was something he’d never been able to talk about with many people because the quality of the confession felt even more intimate than usual… I hope it was cathartic for him.

By: Jessie Nicole

Jessie Nicole — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:14:49 +0000

“(It’s true, by the way. It’s funny how many times, when I’ve shyly come clean about my deep, dirty secret career, the reaction has been not just apathy or curiosity, but a “me too.”)”

Ditto! I thought it was just my social circle! Good to know that happens to other people as well. It used to make me rather sad because we could have been working together and helping each other through some of the challenges and lessons instead of muddling through on our own… but I’m mostly grateful that we can start working on rebuilding our relationships out of respect and camaraderie where before there was secrecy and alienation.

On a related note – have you seen this campaign by Stepping Stone in Canada? Seems like around the world everyone’s jumping on poster campaigns. I’d love to see an archive or gallery started!

http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2011/10/12/humanizing-sex-workers/