You missed the author’s point entirely.

Most sex workers DO have sex in their personal lives, without pay.

BUT those partners are either people met in normal life, not people who approached the SW via her SW persona, or a special client who the SW herself approached.

So if you want to date a sex worker, you can either hope & wish that you chance to meet one in everyday life and the attraction/interest is mutual….. or patronize sex workers as a client, hoping that one will initiate an off-the-clock relationship.

Never get to comfortable with an escort we are basically actresses I could have the worst day of my life but go to work smiling because as soon as I leave my house to visit a client or go to my room my persona changes I am no longer Lila I am now glimmer and my problems at home stay there until I’m Lila again. And saying good bye to a client can sometimes get weird I never invite or even consider any unpaid dates with any of my clients not even a regular who will ask for discounts if they see me every so often. So what I say when I’m on my way out the door is I hope you had a great experience and hopefully I’ll hear from you next time you’re going to call an escort. Like I said above a lot of Sex workers do have partners and are in serious relationships.

Lmao right and what most of the clients don’t realize is that a lot of sex workers have serious partners. And don’t get me started on these goddamn review boards, we have to pay to comment and defend ourselves on the threads. but clients can go and write whatever they want about us I remember when we didn’t have to pay. So at Christmas time my bfs sister got mad at us because he bought me a watch for Christmas and her bf didn’t even call her to say anything to her… So she posted me and my bf on the dirty with a pic taken from my personal Facebook and used it. Then a little while after I started back in sex work I took 2 years off I see someone asking if anyone has seen me to give a review, next thing I see is the link to the dirty telling people to check out me and my manager (pimp) do they not realize how damaging that can be to our reputations as professional sex workers? But if my bf were white they wouldn’t have said anything about him being my manager….

I hope to hear from you again.

Dixie San Diego

Maybe you should’ve tried telling your plumber that your pipe is soooooo nice that he will want to pay YOU after he got done fixing it 😉

This comment reminded me not to take my GFE too far. I give burner numbers to clients after sessions and mention the possibility of a future meeting so hopefully they’ll book me again. I’m not this escort in question so I can’t say for sure what her intentions were, but maybe everyone involved needs to draw clearer boundaries.

Only if a sex worker takes the initiative of inviting you. You could then, if unsure about it being an invitation for another session, double-check to make sure there is no misunderstanding.

It is very rare, and the advice in this post applies to a vast overwhelming majority of situations, but it has happened. And given it’s rarity, and the huge numbers of people who try to get sex workers attention and time and energy for free, I’d say that a client should never take the first step. But the way you are describing it – “At the end, she gave me her private number (I assume) and said she’d like to hear from me, know how I was doing after the sex, and maybe go for a coffee or beer when I was back in town” – it sounds plausible. I left the business years ago but I did have occasional informal contact with some people when I was active, on my initiative. Yet I also know what it feels like to ward off all the unwanted invitations.