Sometimes it’s straight up therapy. One of my clients spends about an hour each time just talking about his childhood and processing the ways in which he feels emasculated, his shame around his desire to be dominated, etc. The other hour he spends being beaten 🙂

I have so often said that sex work and nursing are super similar! Especially working as an L&D nurse, it’s emotionally and physically intimate, our sex organs are involved, there’s a forced and immediate relationship between the worker and the patient/client. I really need to write/think more about this.

Jamie, what I think Sophia Seductions meant was not just people having opinions on sex work, but opinions on the assumed thoughts of sex workers themselves. People outside of sex work can have opinions on how it effects them personally, because that is their personal experience. The problem is when they have an opinion on people they don’t know, refuse to listen to, and weren’t in a similar circumstance themselves, and try to tell others what they think, despite not being one. That’s a problem.

As I hope I made clear, I see sex–as work or otherwise–as something special. I am responding directly to the tendency of some activists to claim that sex as work is just like any other form of labor. Because sex–again, as work or otherwise–is so personal, so bodily, so full of diverse human emotions and experiences, I don’t think it’s appropriate to regulate it in the ways other forms of labor are regulated. I have many other supporting reasons for this position that are neither libertarian nor neoliberal, including being a mother. That the state has the power to take away my child because of my sex work is a testament to the uniqueness of my work. I find it largely inappropriate for the same institution that sanctions violence against me to also act as my regulator. That’s not to say regulation and decrim can’t exist simultaneously. Indeed, regulations a la the legal brothel system can coexist with decriminalized sex work and many sex workers find regulated work to better suit their needs.

To revisit your foot soldier analogy– I’m totally on board with the comparison if foot soldier is akin to sex worker and war is akin to patriarchy. I am passionately and vehemently anti-war, just as I am passionately and vehemently pro-soldier. I would never attempt to speak for a soldier or claim to be an expert on her experiences, her needs, her mental health, etc. It’s also worth pointing out that war necessitates soldiers, not the other way around. So if you’re negatively impacted by porn (or war), perhaps a good place to begin your critique is with patriarchy. And one fantastic way to bring that hammer down is by supporting sex workers.

It should be featured in its own post for its hilarity.

Home health care aide, nurse or nursing assistant, therapist, massage therapist, that kind of thing imo. Idk if the author would agree or not.

This is quite possibly the most unnecessary comment I’ve ever read on this site.