Also, for the record, Miss Levy, I actually was “lucky & industrious enough to make a living doing other things” but eventually chose to come back to sex work instead (maybe it was all the nightmares…?).

I agree with you! Her “pleasure/expression of love” statement is actually really hurtful. Like you’re capable of neither after you enter the sex industry. That’s truly dehumanizing, much worse than a guy paying to stare at my tits.

I had no idea that she was so demonized for writing it—I actually had thought most reviews within feminist communities were quite positive. If you have an interview or something you could point me towards, I’d love to read it. In the afterword, she does mention a handful of sex workers who read it, but all came forward with praise and gratitude.

I was really interested in the majority of what she had to say, particularly when speaking about misogyny in queer communities. And misogyny among women in general is interesting to me. I just thought her response to sex workers—not just sex work as a phenomenon, but the workers as people—was horribly off the mark.

“Looking and acting like a sex worker, without actually getting paid, has become hipper than ever.”

I’m wondering how many people here agree with this. Why this is taking place is an important question to explore.

Cue *eye roll.* I’m pleased to see this review. I had intended to do a review myself but I couldn’t bring myself to finish it. It seemed whiny and shrill. The fact is that this woman is incredibly biased in her writing and she can’t accept that some women aren’t identical to the way that she chooses to sexually express herself.

Oh, and let me say that I completely relate to your comment about male attention. I used to thrive on it, now I’m like “yeah, I know I look good, so what.” I’ve become incredibly selective about my partners because having a man attracted to you is really not that big of a deal. No matter how many insecurities a sex worker may have about herself, there are plenty of men in the other end watching and worshiping her.

Keep up the fantastic work sister! Love the site!!

One of the things I most commonly have nightmares about is forgetting stuff when I travel and/or missing flights. I suppose that even though I *think* I love travel (this brainwashing is no doubt the fault of The Patriarchy), travel is actually deeply damaging to my soul, and I must stop ever leaving home. Going places = nightmares = exploitation = sads.