Comments on: Research Proves Men Come to Strip Clubs to Relax

By: Continuing Discussions on “Dominants are rapists”: Useful Self-Reflections from the Blogosphere « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed

Mon, 04 Nov 2013 22:18:10 +0000

[…] From listening to what the sex workers in my life have told me, and from reading what others have written, I know that’s not how it works. […]

By: Diablo Cody’s Candy Girl (2005)

Diablo Cody’s Candy Girl (2005) — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 17:21:35 +0000

[…] Diablo Cody doesn’t spend a whole lot of the book challenging these assumptions either, but hey, this is a memoir, not a political statement. So I stuck with her and was mostly happy. She did dig into some of the more juicy and complex elements of sex work including a chapter where in a money hungry moment she crosses her own physical boundaries with a customer. My general thesis on the book until I got to the second to last chapter was that she’s a great writer and her description of stripping gigs is accurate down to the stripper complaining to the DJ that she hasn’t shit in a week and the DJ suggesting bran cereal. It’s only a shame we didn’t get to see the humanity of her coworkers and customers a little more. She has little affection for the women she works with, save for a chapter where she kind-of bonds with, kind-of interrogates Nico, a former prostitute, about her past. She has even fewer words to say about customers unless it is to describe some wild fetish—we don’t ever learn here about regular guys who just come to the club to relax. […]

By: Diablo Cody’s Candy Girl (2005) | Tits and Sass

Diablo Cody’s Candy Girl (2005) | Tits and Sass — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 16:07:12 +0000

[…] Diablo Cody doesn’t spend a whole lot of the book challenging these assumptions either, but hey, this is a memoir, not a political statement. So I stuck with her and was mostly happy. She did dig into some of the more juicy and complex elements of sex work including a chapter where in a money hungry moment she crosses her own physical boundaries with a customer. My general thesis on the book until I got to the second to last chapter was that she’s a great writer and her description of stripping gigs is accurate down to the stripper complaining to the DJ that she hasn’t shit in a week and the DJ suggesting bran cereal. It’s only a shame we didn’t get to see the humanity of her coworkers and customers a little more. She has few affections for the women she works with, save for a chapter where she kind-of bonds with, kind-of interrogates Nico, a former prostitute, about her past. She has even fewer words to say about customers unless it is to describe some wild fetish—we don’t ever learn here about regular guys who just come to the club to relax. […]

By: Sex work, bourgeois mores, and fundy fisting | Limpid Lech's finds

Sex work, bourgeois mores, and fundy fisting | Limpid Lech's finds — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 07:49:27 +0000

[…] Survey says … Men go to strip clubs to relax. […]

By: Raging Chrysalis: The End of the Mute Submissive Masculine « Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed

Sat, 03 Sep 2011 02:21:45 +0000

[…] I don’t believe I could ever feel comfortable paying for sex or BDSM play of any kind—and so to date I never have. But, now, I do better understand its undeniably legitimate value. […]

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 30 Aug 2011 00:21:38 +0000

Sounds spot-on to me. Of course, our interactions outside the strip club can be just as relaxing, if we have the courage and skill to make them that way. But I’d hate to cut in on y’all’s business. 😉

I’ve been to a strip club twice in my life, both times to ritually mark a male bonding occasion with friends, and we were glad to have the ladies to help us celebrate properly. I don’t think there’s anything untoward or misogynistic there at all.

By: The Weekly Unwrap | Tits and Sass

The Weekly Unwrap | Tits and Sass — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 22:01:46 +0000

[…] Story takes a look at Katherine Frank’s 2002 research into strip club regulars. […]

By: Kate Hate

Kate Hate — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 21:10:00 +0000

I know this has nothing to do with the post, but it’s exciting to see a picture taken at my home club. asdgjfgd’lgjh!! I can even see the day dreams logo in the flyer posted on the trellis.

By: Sex Mahoney

Sex Mahoney — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 06:05:30 +0000

Exposure breeds understanding. They should bring field tripping students to strip clubs starting at an early age. It would be more useful than learning cursive.

By: Patron

Patron — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 03:17:46 +0000

Good post. As a former strip club regular I can relate to most of her reasons that men attend clubs. I rarely achieved an erection in the clubs as the nudity and sexuality of the environment were secondary to the party atmosphere which provided a great escape from regular life. That coupled with conversation with people I would normally not interact with provided a certain thrill.

Anyway good post, thanks for bringing this to a wider audience.