Comments on: Chester Brown’s Paying for It

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Velvet Collar, The Rentboy Raid Inspired Comic Book — Tits and Sass — Wed, 01 Nov 2017 14:00:24 +0000

[…] The Velvet Collar Kickstarter discusses representation of sex workers in alternative comics. Chester Brown is probably the most prominent creator who mines the topic, but he is admittedly writing from […]

By: Mary Wept Over The Feet of Jesus (2016) — Tits and Sass

Mary Wept Over The Feet of Jesus (2016) — Tits and Sass — Thu, 28 Apr 2016 14:00:41 +0000

[…] anyone else.” His avowed, classic libertarianism in his sex work client graphic novel memoir Paying For It (2011) would’ve had me assume that he was a fervent atheist a la Richard Dawkins. His […]

By: WilliamR

WilliamR — Mon, 27 May 2013 21:44:44 +0000

Do sex workers have an on-line space where they can swap information and review clients? I am sure I read about such a service being launched in New York a few years ago.

By: “Getting Away” With Hating It: Consent in the Context of Sex Work

“Getting Away” With Hating It: Consent in the Context of Sex Work — Thu, 21 Mar 2013 14:01:17 +0000

[…] paying to have sex with a woman who doesn’t give signs of enjoying it? (I’m reminded of Chester Brown praising a woman’s “honesty” for pulling a dead fish while he fucks her.) Am I […]

By: The Week In Links: July 13

The Week In Links: July 13 — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 20:01:12 +0000

[…] Dangerfield is the Chester Brown of the UK: “I pay whores and make no secret of it. I talk about it with family and friends […]

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Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:02:34 +0000

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By: Eugene

Eugene — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 20:46:47 +0000

I recently finished Brown’s memoir, and really enjoyed his dry humor and found myself relating as a guy whose romantic prospects are drastically limited by social awkwardness. I’m not as specific as Chester, but I feel he’s entitled to his preferences, it just makes sense that he wouldn’t want to have sex with someone he’s not attracted to. Also, I’m not 100% that it’s a necessarily an aversion to older women. In the appendix, he explains that he began finding ladies through ads in the back of newspapers and, since the ads didn’t provide pictures, tried to visited younger girls because he felt that they would have still retained their good looks… Which kinda sounds worse. Anyway, for what it’s worth, “Denise”, the woman whom he becomes committed to, is in her thirties.

I’ve never browsed the forums so I can’t comment on the nature of the posting, but I have read some of the reviews and they can get really graphic. Pictures have begun to eliminate the need for descriptions, but a place where one can get information relating to rip-offs, upselling, false advertising, and other dangers and bad business practices I feel is necessary. Any John with any sense is just as concerned with personal safety as a like-minded provider would be, so despite how much I disapprove of the unsavory aspects of TER, I don’t feel comfortable visiting anyone who doesn’t have at least two reviews.

By: probablynotgoingtosay

probablynotgoingtosay — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 05:22:48 +0000

I honestly wish I had the balls to out myself as a john. I’ve only ever been once but it was honestly more healing than any words anyone could have given me at the time and I’m immensely grateful.

thanks for the great read and maybe some day I’ll be “out” and I can post here with my real name… i cringe at the thought of how much judgement I would receive.

By: michael bartley

michael bartley — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 16:25:43 +0000

Just read your review, I was very interested in reading this book when I first hear about it. The idea of using sex workers to meet my desires for affection and sex is very appealing to me. While I still hope that I can find that love relationship, a relationship that would enrich both of us, I am not sure it will happen for me. Since my last relationship ended I found new ways to fill that space. I do lots of volunteer work and I found this to be rewarding and very meaningful. Since I still lacked something I really desired, physical affection, both giving and getting. So one day I decided to hire an escort and it turned out to be one of the most wonderful and exciting experiences I’ve had in a long time. The only down side was not really being able to share it. I wasn’t willing to talk about it was friends, co-workers etc, I was afraid of people’s reactions. I know that not everyone experience is like I had. Since I would like to see this type of work be accepted by society.

By: me

me — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 11:52:29 +0000

In reply to J Edgar Nation.

why do all sex workers “deserve to be treated like ladies” (even the male ones..?)…as distinct from how every other human being should be treated? sure, people should all be nice and respectful to each other but erm…they’re just not. shock and surprise, assholish behaviour extends to sex work customers