I love jsw too. (farm animals…heh)

We weren’t even 100% naked (they had laws then, this was Ohio) and yet, there was the same male entitlement to the dancers. No matter how much of a woman’s body is truly “in their faces”–they think *all of her* belongs to them

When we talk about “rape culture,” this is what we mean: the idea that men, straight men, have that they do not have to have clear consent before touching a woman’s body, that they can err on the side of putting things inside her without asking her and still be in the right because they were “just confused”. That a woman who is butt-ass naked and on a pole is automatically consenting to be touched wherever and by whomever; that a woman who is wearing a short skirt in a bar is automatically consenting to have sex whenever and with whomever. It doesn’t work like that, guys, and it’s really not as complicated as you think it is. Just don’t touch women without asking first, even if her vagina is right in front of your face.

First: “Personally, I can’t quite understand your transformation from being bored when he *looked* at you to being practically traumatized when he *touched* you.” In my experience, this is the way life works: people look at you all the time. It’s never a big deal. People touching you, though… it’s always a very different thing. This is true on the bus, at Starbucks, at the mall, walking down the street. The fact that looking at and touching are very different things is ingrained in normal social conditioning.

Second: “In real life – outside of a club – looking is followed quite naturally by touching.” This guy is likely also confused by the concept of paying in restaurants, because in “real life” his grandma doesn’t bill him for each meal. It’s amazing that he thinks that looking at someone’s body in a strip club is exactly analogous to someone deciding – it would seem perhaps poorly – to reveal her body to him in private.

Third: “I’m a straight male, when I see a pussy I have two immediate impulses: rub it and put something in it.” Very well addressed by Irony Butterfly. I just wanted to add a few things: I hope the guy never has daughters, I hope he never sees his mother naked, and he should stay away from farm animals.

I’ve been into a strip club exactly once in my life. I’ve never used escorts. I’m like a virgin commenting on the Kama Sutra here. However, I do think it’ll be fun to read and participate, and I do hope that the type of thought behind the comments addressed by Irony Butterfly is known to be atypical and also proof of why oxygen deficiency during birth can be so harmful.