That’s a huge compliment coming from you–thanks!

Now I’m having naughty fantasies about slipping benzos into my clients’ drinks…But yeah, that’d be wrong.

Thanks, Charlotte! Yeah, I think this whole idea of yours is very good for reigniting enthusiasm for our work in general. Now I’m thinking of suggesting an overnight to one of my regulars tomorrow when I see him for our monthly call. We also need to figure out how to frame a feature in which people write about checking off items on their bucket list, b/c there seems to be some interest in that—and I’d love to write about what happens on my maiden voyage in overnight calls. Also I TOTALLY want you to write about hiring someone.

Hope it’s not rude to jump in here re: overnights but I second Amanda’s experiences above, and Olivia’s too, though I’ve also had a decent amount of third category, both-of-us-slept-like-crap dates. I think some guys are really nervous about their snoring, or disturbing me, or the bed is too small and we can feel each other’s every movement…. It’s been very rare for me (thank god) to have the over-sexually active clients with no respect for my normal human need for sleep, but it has happened. Once I got fed up and simply snapped “I’m actually really tired” and he seemed appropriately chagrined. I also see many, many longer date girls specify on their sites that they need at least 6, 7, or 8 hours of sleep. I bet it’s one of those situations where the guys who need to be told don’t bother reading that anyway, but I guess they at least have a disclaimer to refer to if the guy is really being a pest.

I thought about taking a sleeping pill, too, because I’ve slept well with a client in the bed maybe once or twice out of dozens of times. (Now I want to go count through my records—80 would be my best estimate.) But I hate how I feel when waking up from any type of sleepy-making drug. I’ve resigned myself to every overnight being a night of little to no sleep, and try not to do more than one a week, and to cushion it with a day afterwards that’s not too demanding.

And I’ve only known two clients who arranged separate sleeping spaces for me. One hired girls ALL THE TIME and I think he’d heard that his snoring kept them from sleeping regularly enough that he didn’t want to hear it anymore. The other was trying to impress me, I think. It sort of worked? There is nothing better than getting paid for an overnight while having your own private space for sleep and just alone, quiet time. But so far, in my experience, it’s very rare. Usually they want to snuggle and keep their eye on you because they’re so infatuated that god forbid you have a moment apart. (When they talk to you through the bathroom door….ARGH. DON’T YOU REALIZE I AM GOING IN HERE FOR SOME FUCKING PRIVACY?!?!?)

I’m an introvert too, so back to back overnights (like extended dates with the same person) usually make me crawl the walls pretty quickly, even if the guy is not that demanding.

You are too kind! I love this feature too, and hope we get a billion submissions for it. This one was fantastic, Caty. I feel like you stoked up some love and enthusiasm for the work that has been all too dormant as of late. (And this was so hilarious: “Also, who would I even hire? The movement makes it feel like I know every sex worker out there.”)

I soooo want to hire someone now, and write about it for the site.

1) Sorry. He has both male and female clients, though he markets to gay men. I don’t know what his personal preference is, I never asked (seemed rude to do that).

2) Long story. As for choosing Paris…it’s not the US. The US is a dangerous country, even if you’re just a woman walking down a street at night, much less if you’re a sex worker.

3) I’ve finally figured out to take a sleeping pill once it’s bedtime (make sure they don’t know this). I’m out like a light and at least this way I know I will get some amount of sleep. I’d much rather give THEM a sleeping pill but that’s wrong. I’m used to sleeping by myself and can’t sleep with someone else in bed with me, regardless of how nice (or not) they are.

By both sides of the fence do you mean he’s both a worker and a client? What made you decide on Paris for trying street work? What mistakes do you think you made and how would you do it smarter next time? Ugggh, yeah, that’s one of the nightmarish visions that’s kept me from trying an overnight so far–the idea that I’ll keep getting woken up by the lecherous client.

I guess the clients just know, so far anyway. No one has expected more than two rounds of sex. Maybe I’ve just been lucky though!