Comments on: In Praise Of The Man Who Doesn’t Get Strip Clubs

By: jerry

jerry — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 16:05:39 +0000

Strip clubs are a bit ridiculous really,it may be the amount of booze I’ve drunk before I go in one but I can’t take it seriously.we all know the girls are going to try selling dances and the drink will be overpriced before we go in so what’s the problem? My problem is with the dire music,MOR rock for gods sake-some d’n’b or dub won’t go amiss

By: Antagonising

Antagonising — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 18:50:22 +0000

I wouldn’t date a girl because she was a stripper for the same reason I wouldn’t date a girl because she was a Veterinarian. That is to say I wouldn’t date any girl because of her job, I’d date her because of who she is and how she makes me feel. I’ve dated incredible women with varying occupations and it goes without saying that there are people with very admirable occupations that are idiots and there are those with less admirable occupations that are fantastic people.

That may sound pretentious but actually its just the opposite. I think admirable is a very appropriate word, as people admire some professions and shun others without just cause.

On a note related to the “fake” statements; A dancer doesn’t have to be the most attractive to catch my eye. It’s energy and charisma that makes a girl sexy. I’m also a big fan of witty banter coming from someone who doesn’t take themselves to seriously.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 02:19:07 +0000

I dated a guy who was really into strip clubs once. It didn’t last long because he *actually* believed/hoped that I just wanted to get drunk and have sex all the time; he didn’t get the performance/work/entertainment aspect and figured we were all a bunch of alcoholic nymphos just being paid to be ourselves. The guys who are all “whatever, a job’s a job” are much better.

Note: If you’re dying to date a stripper and totally fetishize them, pretending you don’t will get you much further.

By: _jsw_

_jsw_ — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 01:45:12 +0000

Back on topic… I don’t think that it’s necessarily that those of us who aren’t into strip clubs are turned off by it being “fake” – as you say, there’s at least a degree of false friendliness in a lot of professions – as we are not turned on because it’s not an expression of genuine interest in us personally (I mean, how could it be – we’re typically complete strangers). And so, because it is, when you get down to it, just a job, and because the attention is just there to get paid (understandably), it’s just not… erotic. It’s a beautiful display of bodily movement, but it’s not arousing. I’ve only been to a strip club once, and I fully appreciated the talents of the women there, but they didn’t turn me on. They turned on a lot of other guys there, but not me – because it was clear they weren’t turned on by me. I prefer it to be mutual.

On the other hand, a girlfriend tried stripping for me a few times, and that was a complete turn-on, for both of us. It’s not the stripping that’s arousing, it’s the woman doing it and the relationship we have with her that matters. When a stranger is doing something that’s intended to arouse us, but she’s not also aroused, it just sort of makes the whole thing amusing but not arousing.

So I guess that it’s more correct to say that we absolutely “get” strip clubs, and we realize that they’re really alluring to a lot of men (and women), but we just don’t perceive what happens there as personally arousing due to the lack of an actual relationship (beyond customer/dancer).

By: _jsw_

_jsw_ — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 01:30:40 +0000

In reply to _jsw_.

And… that was supposed to be a reply to pdxtom’s “Wait, The Onion isn’t real?”, but since I forgot to add my email when I submitted (I’m not on my regular computer) and went back to fix it, it ended up down here.

So what wasn’t very funny to begin with now looks downright dumb. 😮

By: _jsw_

_jsw_ — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 01:28:37 +0000

Their greatest joke is that they’ve convinced us all they’re not real stories. But they are. All of them.

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 01:13:59 +0000

I can’t agree with the “everything is fake”. I’ve met two of my closest male friends in that environment, both beginning as customers.

Part of my “hustle” is being myself, and I’ve consistently been told by regulars and random patrons, that part of my appeal (to them, at least) is that I seem sincere and natural. Other times, yes, I am definitley bullshitting, fudging, and telling the Dickwad with the Money what he wants to hear. But not always, and not even usually.

By: Miss Trotwood

Miss Trotwood — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 00:28:50 +0000

Yeah, I’m nodding along. I do some domination work, and I have a chilled out boyfriend who is totally bemused by the idea that anyone would want to go see a dominatrix, and finds the whole idea peculiar and funny in equal measure, but manages to not be judgmental about it either. I don’t think it would occur to him to be jealous of me getting my kink on with clients, because the fantasies and needs they bring to sessions are nothing like what happens between us.

By: Coco R.

Coco R. — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 23:38:15 +0000

it’s the guys who don’t get strip cubs that always end of in the champagne room with me. but there is still appreciation because there is no, “so, uhh, when do you blow me?”

By: Tammi Murphy

Tammi Murphy — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 20:53:19 +0000

I don’t get the appeal of a lot of entertainment offerings. Rodeos, for instance. What’s the point? It isn’t like riding a bull for 8 seconds is actually a useful skill to have. Then there’s professional wrestling. That’s well known to be choreographed (ie; fake). People still spend tons of cash on pro wrestling.

What really baffles me is that customers of strip clubs act like it is some big revelation that the dancers are just there to make money. Like they have unlocked some kind of secret code that other customers are completely unaware, and they feel compelled to inform every stripper they encounter in the club that they know the “game” and her hustle isn’t going to work on him. By making that statement, he is just showing that he really doesn’t get that strip clubs are an entertainment and not some kind of elaborate con to cause customers to part with their cash. They seem to have confused strippers with the UK lottery, LOL!