Working in the industry, as a private worker I have a few of my own I’d like to contribute…

I have to have fun with it otherwise I’d go insane….

I have a client I have been seeing for years, who (extremely!) inappropriately asks about my other clients and how they compare to him i.e cock size, my enjoyment etc. WTF right?!! I smile & laugh it off, change subject, give him a friendly hug and as my face is hidden, roll my eyes and mouth “f***tard!” behind him. Ahhh the sheer f***ing stupidity of it all. Probably an indicator that he harbours same sex fantasies that he has problems facing. SO not an issue, but I do wish he’d just sort that out on his own time and not involve me. AWKWARD!

One that really cheeses me off is: client calls, I answer. “Hello?”, “Can I come in NOW???!!”. Well, first of all bookings are, a) appointment only; b) I do have other clients already booked into my schedule as well as have a life outside work (oh horror of horrors!), and c) let’s not forget to factor in enough travel time to get here! Appointments are meant to start when the client gets here, not when he hops in his car, drives for half an hour, then arrives. He, of course is only considering his own time and self, everyone else, especially a sex worker, is simply irrelevant, and there for his enjoyment only at all times! Even when they’re not being paid. My response, “Are you waiting out front?”. client, is confused, “Errrr, no”. Back to moi, “Well then, unless you have a time machine, and go back in time long enough for you to drive here and arrive out the front RIGHT NOW, then we have ourselves in a bit of a pickle don’t we?”. client is even more confused, and bewildered. “Uh uh, uh, can I come in now?”. FFS! Usually my response is to just hang up. On the rare time I have let these, clearly disrespectful douchetards in because I wanted their money badly enough (of course factoring in appropriate time to arrive), they have been SURPRISE, SURPRISE… late! Tuh-dah!

btw, isn’t an OCD issue on my part, I assure you! I just believe it’s a sign of respect to value other people and their time; it is, after all, money;)

Oh, oh, oh, and what about those pearlers, “do you like to party? ;)” i.e. will you get off your face with me so I can take advantage of you completely and get my “money’s worth” (IF you get paid at all!!) or “do you accept payment other than cash ;)?” i.e. drugs. And no, they are not kidding. I’ve already asked. No effing way!!! Wow, what charmers!

I could go on & on… but won’t! Have to go take a shower. 🙂

Ermmmmm, interested in sex work but have never done it, worked as a bar tender and waiter forever……. We totally hate customers, or more to the point we totally hate the annoying and disrespectful ones, and funnily enough they are the ones we moan about.

I didn’t ask anyone to give a shit about how I feel. I am asking a question. If a sex worker (or really whatever worker) thinks literally all their clients are sacks of shit, how can it not totally fuck up said worker’s head to continue in the business?

You vent on me, but then yourself contradict the sentiment of the original article, by saying there are really good clients. But fine, I offer myself as vent-target, as a small token of appreciation for all sex workers.

When I’m with a sex worker, she is in control. My only control is to terminate the session early. A client is either compliant and acceptable, or non-compliant and unacceptable. If a sex worker feels overly appreciative of an acceptable client, that likely means she is being overly tolerant of unacceptable clients. I’m not trying to bash anyone, most of us tolerate things at work that aren’t really acceptable, some less, some more.

We’ve addressed this fucktard and his HURT CLIENT FEELZ before on this board and I just can’t be bothered to reiterate it all.

We’re entitled to vent. We don’t have to love you, dude. You are paying for a facsimile of love/affection and a service. If you’re a really good client, most of us will develop respectful feelings of warmth and appreciation for you, and even enjoy you erotically. Otherwise, this is just a job. If that turns you off, go get a real girlfriend.

Riot act? Where are you getting that?

This article comes across like it’s saying there are two kinds of custies, assholes, and the ones who think they aren’t.

So, OK, if you’re a sex worker, who enjoys only the occasional wallow in warm mud or self-pity, that means you’ve largely gotten past wishful thinking, everyone-says-so and other forms of lazy thinking. And once you do that, a fairly dark opinion of humanity naturally follows. I can get on board with the idea that, being human, custies are largely assholes. But no, there is nothing special about us that allows us to transcend the normal limits of human assholery. If sex workers are typically convinced of the transcendent assholery of custies, I think that’s maybe saying the job is never a healthy choice.

Believe me, the last thing I WANT is to have to accept the conclusion that paying someone for sex can never be ethical. It would mean celibacy for me.

I don’t think that we hate our clients more than other service workers–you just don’t happen to lurk on hair dresser forums and or/etc to see those people talk shit about their most irritating clients. After all, one of the best blogs about client misbehavior–“Clients from Hell”–was created by web designers–are you going to go read them the riot act for hating their clients, or opine that web design isn’t a choice?
I do think our clients misbehave a lot more than many other industries’ clients because of the pervasive belief that sex workers are disposable and/or not fully human beings.

In any job that involves personal service (waiting tables, domestic worker, etc.), a lot of frustration at inconsiderate customer behavior is inevitable. Am I wrong to wonder if the contempt/anger/hatred pervasively expressed on this website goes way beyond the expectable level of frustration?

Is the answer that sex work should be thought of as comparable to being a race car driver? With a high danger of harm, (hopefully just) psychological in the case of the sex worker, physical in the case of the race car driver? But a reasonable choice because of the exceptional potential rewards?

And this comment illustrates a very common trend:
Person in a “regular” job vents about client – receives understanding and compassion.
Person in a sex job vents about client – gets asked “so why do you do it?!”
This happens again, and again, and again. Can you imagine how it gets to us over time? Can you see what it tells us, what stories and perceptions it serves to maintain?

You say you “don’t assume” or “don’t have any issues”. But if you don’t ask the same question of other jobs, then you do, you just aren’t aware of it. And if you do ask this question of customer service reps, waiters, admin assistants, or lawyers, etc. – then I apologize for making my own assumptions.