Yep, on a similar vein with how my aromanticism and chronic pain influence the sex I have.

I’ve noticed that a lot of (at least younger) guys are afraid of being that jerk who only thinks about his pleasure, but the goal has switched to “make sure she orgasms as well” rather than “ask her what she wants.” They want to finger me for my pleasure (but really for theirs) even though orgasms cause me pain. And thus I don’t seek them from sex. Ever. So basically they’re trying to make my experience what one would expect to meet the criteria for good, enthusiastic sex, even though what they’re doing is something I explicitly never consent to.

The aromantic side is less pointed in sex itself, because I find that the “I don’t like kissing people” limit gets crossed a lot less than “Don’t try to make me orgasm. I don’t want it.”