Comments on: Don’t Hit Women Or Whores: Whorephobic Domestic Violence and Its Discontents https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/ By and about sex workers Fri, 23 Feb 2018 17:37:43 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: When Will It Be #TimesUp For Rapist Cops? #MeToo And Sex Workers | Tits and Sass https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-1181852 Fri, 23 Feb 2018 17:37:43 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-1181852 […] the stigma of our work against us. Consider Rob Kardashian posting revenge porn of Blac Chyna and the brutal beating of adult film star Christy Mack by her boyfriend War Machine. Both abusers justified their behavior by pointing to the supposed promiscuity of their sex worker […]

]]> By: Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Intimate Partner Violence and Sex Work « Sex Worker Outreach Project - Chicago https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-243296 Wed, 01 Oct 2014 22:23:51 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-243296 […] sex workers, we experience high rates of intimate partner violence, extra vulnerabilities, elevated levels of victim-blaming, and heightened barriers to getting professional and community support. And as participants in a […]

]]> By: More Than Silence: Tjhisha Ball, Angelia Mangum, and the Erasure of Black Sex Workers https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-239671 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:44:31 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-239671 […] speeches begging for justice for them and decriminalization for full service sex workers. When Christy Mack, an adult film actress, was brutally beaten not long ago, funding campaigns to help her recover […]

]]> By: Elle https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-163518 Tue, 19 Aug 2014 03:52:19 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-163518 I must read this book, by Lundy.

]]> By: Cyd https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-163257 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 22:20:13 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-163257 What I wrote on Facebook:
I am choosing to share this article, cautiously because in the context of Facebook sometimes talking about how fucked society can be, can overwhelm in a way that does not help us build and grow, but I want people to read it because it talks about how the permission for whorephobic (and by turns racist or transphobic) physical violence is created. I am so grateful that I exist in a community that by large does not view my sex worker status as a reason to dehumanize me, but that does not mean that I have not been effected by this sociocultural measure of worth. I have absolutely been violently sexually assaulted by clients and despite the activism, the support, the culture I exist in – afterwards I felt like even if I didn’t deserve itI should have expected it, and felt little to no agency in seeking any kind of justice, legal or otherwise. When my friends and partners responded by caring for me, it was gratefulness that I felt that they took me seriously, instead of an expectation that that was what people do when you get hurt. This is not intrinsic to sex work. Its not that if you have sex a certain amount of times, eventually one of those times you are bound to get raped. This is because our society teaches people that those who get paid for sex are acceptable targets for violence. We are told by abolitionist rhetoric like ‘End Demand’ that the desire to cause violence to sex workers is the same as the desire to pay for sex and I need people to understand that that is not true. Stopping violence against sex workers does not stop at the behavior of clients, it includes every person in society who through words, actions, and reactions to news stories like these, pardons the behavior of those who abuse us.

]]> By: Lori Adorable https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-163235 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 21:59:07 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-163235 ” Every time a story like this hits the news cycle, every time we watch people with no connection to the us to or the victims casually mull over exactly how deserved the violence was, we assess, again and again, how that could happen to us, if that could happen to us, and what would happen afterward if it did. The impact of this is more insidious than simply that we are more likely to experience violence”

All of this, for sure. Which is not to remove Christy Mack from the center of this at all. It’s all about her, and I wish her well and hope her community is supportive, as much as I hope the wider community can support each other through these awful thoughts.

]]> By: sarah m https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-162853 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:07:55 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-162853 “…we assess, again and again, how that could happen to us, if that could happen to us, and what would happen afterward if it did.”

Yep.

I appreciate the thought that went into choosing pics to accompany this article, btw.

]]> By: Amanda https://titsandsass.com/dont-hit-women-or-whores-whorephobic-domestic-violence-and-its-discontents/#comment-162788 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 14:07:10 +0000 https://titsandsass.com/?p=17399#comment-162788 Yup. It’s regular victim-blaming x 1,000,000 when it comes to sex workers.

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