Great avatar!! I wish I could use an avatar like that on Facebook…but alas….I’d be deleted in the time it takes to say “labia minora.”

@Charlotte: I’m totally buying some ping pong balls now. I figured that stuff was for the extremely gifted kind, and was not a talent to be acquired. I’m going to start my investigation tomorrow. I’m completely curious, and it never occurred to me that I *could* try.

That is a fascinating interview! I’m curious about two things: 1) what she would think about male kegels and 2) if part of her concern is due to the fact that most people probably just squeeze their entire undercarriage as hard as they can and scrunch up everything, anus and taint included. I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve felt able to engage the muscles inside my vagina a lot more sensitively, and several years into our relationship, my boyfriend started saying that if I came while he was inside of me, he could feel me doing the milking/ripple thing. This site, by the way, is hysterical: http://www.oocities.org/steve4502/vagfacts.html

It makes sense to me that the body always benefits from balance—it’s bad to work out any muscle if you never stretch it to counteract the tightening (Thanks, fat cocks.) But this coming from the girl who taught herself to shoot ping pongs just for kicks, so I may be trying extra hard to justify my life choices.

“A kegel attempts to strengthen the PF [pelvic floor muscle], but it really only continues to pull the sacrum inward promoting even more weakness, and more PF gripping. The muscles that balance out the anterior pull on the sacrum are the glutes. A lack of glutes (having no butt) is what makes this group so much more susceptible to PFD. Zero lumbar curvature (missing the little curve at the small of the back) is the most telling sign that the PF is beginning to weaken. Deep, regular squats (pictured in hunter-gathering mama) create the posterior pull on the sacrum. Peeing like this in the shower is a great daily practice, as is relaxing the PF muscles to make sure that you’re not squeezing the bathroom muscle closers too tight. Just close them enough…An easier way to say this is: Weak glutes + too many Kegels = PFD [pelvic floor dysfunction].” –Katy Bowman (http://mamasweat.blogspot.com/2010/05/pelvic-floor-party-kegels-are-not.html)

I’ve never heard that too many kegels are bad, but I can believe it and want to hear why/what happens if you do too many.

I was told to imagine taking an elevator up to the top floor (the suck-up/squeeze action), but making sure you also take the elevator all the way back down to the basement (pushing out action).

I’ve been working at the club for a month now. To Charlotte: The music is loud in the club itself, but not so much in the lapdance room. Different Managers also play the music different volumes. One manager turns the music down so much I can barely hear the beat while on stage.

I have basically just been avoiding positions where my vag is above my head, since that is what seems to cause it most. Thank you all so much for your responses. It means so much to me, as reading your blogs and candidness and humour is what convinced me to go for this job, and have a healthy relationship to the role. Love and Respect to you all.

But hey, did y’all know too many kegels are bad? Also they are only half the muscles. Whenever you kegel you should reverse kegel by pushing out as well.