He had a weekend of seeing escorts himself, getting ripped off, hanging in bad places, and when he got home realized that these escorts were just as human as everyone else.

Now he is a male escort, and I finally have someone to do doubles with, someone to complain about hagglers with, and even someone to get my genitals waxed with! Lol.

The moral of my experiences is yes, it’s only a job, and it can eat your soul if you’re ashamed of hiding it. I should have told him up front, and my life would have been much less complicated.

Be true to thyself by lying?
Compartmentalize your life and lace it with lies?
Doesn’t sound very healthy to me.

Nothing is more liberating than living the truth. If people cannot deal with me as I am, they don’t deserve to know me. I’d rather be alone and not in a relationship than to compromise myself. I am not ashamed of who I am and what I do for a living and I refuse to lie about it. I’d much rather forge relationships on solid ground.

Honesty is an expression of love. I owe it to myself and anyone I claim to love to not be a lying sack of shit. I absolutely expect the same hardcore honesty in return. A relationship built on lies will not thrive. Bottom line. It may hurt, it may be difficult, but nothing worthwhile comes easy that’s a fact.

I like what john punter stated: “first thing is to get your head in the right place”. What do I personally perceive ‘the right place’ to be? For starters, having a solid foundation in regard to your sense of self, an understanding of who you are and what you are doing to create your life outside of any relationship or vocation (external sources of validation). Self awareness, empowerment.

If a person is not stable in this regard, if a person doesn’t have enough footing on solid ground in order to be able to demand honesty as well as give it in such a situation, I’d say that person isn’t equipped or ready for the responsibilities which a healthy relationship requires. Such a person may want to avoid being in a relationship until they are (fat chance lol). A person developed enough to possess emotional integrity and emotional intelligence will likely have developed an unwillingness to compromise oneself. Otherwise- enjoy the mess.

You’ll eventually figure this out for yourself otherwise will be repeating your lessons until you do.

If you are happy with things as they are, it’s fine to let sleeping dogs lie for now. But if your BF is saying it’s time for him to find a lifetime partner, I think it would be very selfish not to tell him. Yes you will probably lose him, but doing the right thing is generally not easy.

When things are as they should be, parents are an important part of a person’s support system. Unfortunately many parents want to control rather than support their adult children. You don’t need to push your parents out of your life. But you can’t let them control you (at all), and that may mean they pull out of your life, partly or completely. You need to focus energy on people who love the real you, because sooner or later we all need people who have our back.