Article’s link was posted on TUSCL and the above sentence is a rare quality that “M” has.

Many women in the sex industry – strip clubs to call girls – carry an enormous guilt burden. And do stupid stuff to justify their job. Including ill-treating customers – their source of income.

Off course the taboos around sex have been passed down for hundreds of years – and guys are to be blamed just as much.

There needs to be a way for sex lovers to have free access to abundant sex (for a price of course), just like food lovers, just like wine connoisseurs, just like golf nuts – and thousands of other recreational activities.

It will start with us changing our mind-sets and people like “M” are leading this change.

Is Francis an owner?

As far as escorting, I took most of my customers from the club with me. They recommend friends and colleagues so I don’t do much in terms of screening because they are handed to me on a silver platter, so to speak.

Clubs don’t ge raided because of blowjobs, clubs get raided because law enforcement wants to punish people in the sex industry – especially lower-income workers. They look like they’re “cleaning up the community” and the county gets to fine the club, the amount of which is probably water off a ducks back for ownership anyway. The women charged with prostitution? Once they have a record, their options for earning an income are severely constrained – possibly pushing them deeper into sex work.

Police are the problem. Criminalization is the problem. NOT fellow working women.

I understand what she’s saying, but the idea that blowjobs aren’t sex seems to me to be very odd.

If she can warn off the bouncers by leaving her shoes outside the door, the the club described by M has a policy of encouraging extras. It’s not quite as clear in Josephine’s description what her clubs’ policies are, but it does sound as if they also encourage, or at least tolerate, extras. It also sounds as if this is the norm in Detroit. Where policies are clear and regularly enforced, whether in support of extras or banning them, a stripper’s choices are clear cut. It would be interesting to hear from people who work in clubs where the situation is more ambiguous: Either an area where some clubs do and some clubs don’t enforce rules against extras, or a club where the managers are inconsistent about dealing with extras. As an example, managers who are uncomfortable about dealing with extras might go through periods where fear of the police cause them to enforce anti-extra rules stringently, followed by periods where their discomfort causes them to pretend extras aren’t happening. If you know what the odds are of being caught and fired are, you can make rough estimates about whether it’s worth it to provide extras. But it the odds of getting caught and fired change unpredictably, the decision is more difficult.